Luke 6:37 tells us not to judge. But, we can’t stop there, because Matt 7:1-5 spells things out in more detail. The message is that we are not to be judgmental hypocrites. There’s no point trying to remove a speck from someone’s eye if you have a huge log in your own eye. First, take care of your own sins. Then, you have the proper perspective to help someone else grow spiritually.
When you make judgments about certain behaviors or attitudes, remember that you will be held to the same standard you are using. For example, there’s no point in judging someone’s lies if you yourself make a habit of lying. There’s no point in judging someone for watching or making pornographic videos if you yourself entertain pornographic thoughts and images in your own mind. Don’t look with disdain upon someone who gossips if you gossip, too. Clean up your own act before trying to help another clean up theirs.
Jesus took this to an even higher level in John 8 when he told an accusing crowd, “Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.” After those who wanted to condemn her had all left, Jesus said to the woman who had sinned, “I’m not going to condemn you, either. Go, and sin no more.”
The crowd knew that the woman had sinned. Jesus also knew she had sinned. Jesus did not admonish the crowd for recognizing and hating sin. We are supposed to recognize and hate sin (otherwise we can’t get the logs out of our own eyes). Jesus admonished the crowd for not recognizing and hating their own sins and for wanting to condemn the woman for hers. So, Jesus showed us the better way. Recognize and hate sin, but treat sinners with love and mercy rather than condemnation. We’re all sinners. We all want love and mercy when we sin. We should apply the “Golden Rule.” Any condemnation is God’s decision, not ours.
“Go, and sin no more.” Victory over sin is the ultimate goal of God’s love and mercy. Notice, Jesus did not say, “I don’t condemn you, either, and I never will, so go ahead and keep sinning.” If we continue to prefer sin over God’s love and mercy, condemnation may very well be the result. Jesus left the woman with her free will and the choice to either obey him or ignore him.
In summary: Hate the sin but love the sinner. We are all sinners and need empathy for each other. Make sure you hate and address your own sins, first (regular confession and genuine repentance). Leave condemnation up to God (if you throw a stone it may bounce back and hit you). Don’t condone sin in yourself or in others (judge behaviors, not souls). The ultimate goal for all of us is to “go and sin no more.”