There are certain behaviors that are contrary to natural and moral law. It is beyond the scope of this post to address each and every immoral behavior. The general principle applies that the immorality of any given behavior is not rooted in the intent of the person doing the behavior, but the behavior itself. Immorality is not to be confused with culpability. It is possible to perform an immoral act without culpability (blame) when there is lack of sufficient knowledge regarding the immorality of the act. In other words, if a person has been taught that an immoral act is “fine” to do and sincerely believes it is not wrong, there is less blame to be placed on that person for the act. Yet, the act itself remains an immoral one. Just as gravity is gravity because it is gravity, an immoral act is immoral because it is immoral, not because people deem it immoral.
If I recognize the immorality of a certain behavior, it is my responsibility not to condone such behavior as moral. If someone asks me, “Do you think such-and-such behavior is acceptable?” my answer must be, “No, I do not.” If asked to support such behavior within the realm of legality and legislation, my response must be, “I cannot in good conscience support that behavior with my vote.” The fact that multitudes of people fail to recognize the immorality of the behavior may reduce their culpability, but it does not make the immoral behavior moral. The fact that multitudes of people believe the immoral behavior to be an inalienable human right does not make the behavior moral. The fact that multitudes of people may have an inborn tendency towards performing the behavior does not make the behavior moral. The fact that “most” members of my Faith supposedly do it does not make the immoral behavior moral.
Keep in mind that I am referring to behaviors. This concerns what people do, not who or what people are. Morality is about the choices we make. Often we must make choices that are moral despite our desires and feelings that lead us toward immorality. Feelings and desires do not alter the morality of a behavior. All of us have feelings and desires that can pull us into immoral behaviors. This is called sin, and we all have it somewhere in our lives in varying forms and degrees. We all have to make the choice to either rationalize and justify our sins or repent of our sins.
If I recognize the immorality of a behavior, I do not necessarily have to place blame or culpability on the person performing the behavior. I do not need to judge the person, the person’s soul or the person’s intentions in order to judge the fundamental behavior. This is the problem with the “Judge not lest you be judged” argument people use to justify immoral behavior. They rip that scripture verse from the Bible, divorce it from its context, and use it as a weapon against anyone that recognizes the immorality of their behavior. All of us need to judge behaviors on a daily basis. That is called knowing right from wrong. Only God can judge the person the soul and the intentions.
Disagreeing with a behavior does not constitute bigotry. Again, behaviors are choices we make, unlike skin color, gender, age, physical handicap, sexual attraction, etc. If I recognize the immorality of a behavior and refuse to call it moral, that does not make me a bigot. It does not make me a “hater.” In fact, pointing out the immorality of a behavior can be one of the most loving things a person can do as a spiritual act of mercy. If I condone the behavior and pretend it is moral, I could be helping to jeopardize that person’s soul.
If I disagree with a behavior, it does not mean I necessarily fear the person that performs the behavior. (There might be some fear of displeasing God if I condone the behavior, however.) Recognizing an immoral behavior does not make me “phobic.” It does not mean I fear the person, hate the person or desire to restrict the rights of the person. It simply means I recognize the behavior as immoral, and refuse to call it something other than what it is in order to placate the feelings of someone or give in to political correctness. It does not mean I am cruel or without compassion. It means I am doing my best to be honest, and that I can see no good for anyone in pretending that the immoral is moral.
“Woe unto them that call evil good, and good evil; that put darkness for light, and light for darkness; that put bitter for sweet, and sweet for bitter!” (Isaiah 5:20)
I love my children. When I tell them that what they’re doing is wrong, they know I still love them but not their behaviour. All the people who call us “haters, phobic, narrow-minded,”etc. know this. However, if they acknowledge that it is the behaviour we disagree with and not the person, their argument won’t carry so any weight. From a social policy and human rights aspect, it’s more advantageous for them to accuse of hate. Tiring, isn’t it?
Indeed. Good point. What is a common reaction from an adolescent being disciplined by a parent? “You’re mean and cruel and you don’t understand me!”